I borrowed that line from Marty McFly because that’s how I’ve been feeling lately.<\/p>\n
Friday night (Feb. 8th, I suppose) around 10:15 the phone rang.\u00a0 Being the hard-partying girl that I am, I was getting ready to settle in for the night and go to bed soon.\u00a0 I didn’t recognize the phone number, but due to the time of night I could only guess that the phone call was important.\u00a0 I picked it up and I think it changed my life.<\/p>\n
I was greeted by someone who could tell me everything about myself.\u00a0 She knew my name, DOB, mother’s name, grandmother’s name, etc.\u00a0 It was Wilma, my biological father’s wife.\u00a0 Dennis, my biological father, was soon to join me on the phone.\u00a0 I learned a lot that night about his life, and about how unprepared I am to talk about myself and my life.\u00a0 I also learned that, no matter how much you think it doesn’t mean anything to you, it really feels good to know that you are wanted.\u00a0<\/p>\n
I never knew Dennis until that day.\u00a0 He and my mother divorced undes less-than-ideal circumstanceswhen I was about 2\u00a0after having been seperated since I was a baby.\u00a0 I don’t remember him at all.\u00a0 I have a few pictures, but I can’t even really tell what he used to look like.\u00a0 I guess he’s a short guy.\u00a0 And I found out he had a stroke in 1984 that brought on many medical conditions like epilepsy.\u00a0 And since then he’s had two brain surgeries.\u00a0 He’s lived on social security disability since then.\u00a0 So I’m guessing there’s no huge inheritance to be had. \ud83d\ude09\u00a0 And that’s okay because I never expected anything anyhow.\u00a0 I never really expected him to find me.\u00a0 And now I have more people in my life to deal with.\u00a0 Not that that’s a bad thing, i just don’t quite know how to handle it.\u00a0<\/p>\n
I started writing him a letter, but I can’t bring myself to finish it.\u00a0 I had written a letter a couple of years ago as sort of a literary exercise.\u00a0 I titled it “The Letter I’ll Never Send” more because I had no address to send it to, but now I won’t send it because he’d be hurt and I don’t want to do that.\u00a0<\/p>\n
I spent so much emotional energy as a kid feeling rejected and lonely.\u00a0 And angry at my situation.\u00a0 I just wanted a family like everyone else.\u00a0 Now he wants to be a part of my life and I don’t know what to do.\u00a0 I guess I really do.\u00a0 Just get to know him, take it slow, and see what kind of a person he really is.\u00a0 People can look incredibly different depending on the lens you use to view them, and just because my mom saw him through the “wife” lens doesn’t mean I can’t see something different through my “estranged child” lens.\u00a0<\/p>\n
I got a flower delivery yesterday from him.\u00a0 He sent me 8 roses for Valentine’s Day and enclosed a card on which he wrote “I Love You, Dad.\u00a0 PS. I’m glad I found you.”\u00a0 In a way, it’s kind of creepy.\u00a0 In another way, it’s sad and sweet all in one.\u00a0<\/p>\n
I’m almost 30 and I feel like I have enough past to cover 60 years.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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